Loading ...Socialness.. or the lack thereof
Part of the things I’ve been changing lately is that I’m trying to be more outgoing and social. This is probably something that sounds silly to most people, but for me it’s something that’s been bothering me – a lot. I’ve noticed for a long time that I’m always the one initiating conversations, it’s only roughly 2 or 3 people that will start to talk to me. That’s something that’s been going on for years, but whenever I talk to someone it’ll be a fun conversation (if the person’s up for a talk that is). So because of that I’ve never really known why this was the case, do people simply expect me to initiate the conversation?
As such I’m sometimes just finding myself not talking to anyone as I’m not initiating conversations just to see if that’s changed, then I’ll just end up feeling lonely if I’m not actively doing something or even when I am. Turns out that after all those years, that is one thing that doesn’t seem to be changing, despite me trying to be more open and social towards other people. I know I used to (and can still be) quite closed off at times and will give only short answers. The funny thing is that when others do it, I consider it rude and unpleasant, yet it’s something I’ve done for so long myself.
Hum, this might sound awkward, but this part of your personality is so similar to my own, that is crazy lol
Well, I do understand you on this one.
Aewyre
February 29, 2012
Ditto
Dark Dude
March 1, 2012
Why the hell are we all the same?
For some reason I was the one who starts the conversation 90% of the time. Are other people just too lazy and boring?
Ake
March 1, 2012
I have been thinking that it must be me who’s boring for some reason. I’m not sure what it takes to get someone to actively want to talk to you for as I don’t think I act any different to other people.
So I’m still really not sure why nobody seemingly wants to talk to me, am I boring? Am I simply not nice or friendly enough?
Aeterna
March 2, 2012
I don’t think it is either case of us being boring, or them being boring. It must be the case that, even though they enjoy having a conversation with us (cause we are funny or something else) but they don’t exactly miss talking with us. If we have a conversation, it is fine for them, if we don’t, it is also fine. The question is, what can we do to change this?
Aewyre
March 2, 2012
I feel uncomfortable in conversations. I never start one and am kinda glad when nobody starts one with me. What I really hate is when someone talks to me when I listen to music (which is whenever I can)
Fhqwhgod
March 6, 2012